Well here is a very simple question that might help clarify.  

If you were a man in a long term monagamous relationship with a woman, and you had no compulsive behaviors that caused you to feel out of balance or that caused you or others pain, and no adjustment problems, and were very happy, and very open, and contributing to your community and other people, and were in love with your partner, and part of that love was the mutual exploration of emotional states and closeness, and it was so good and so intense that you both wanted to have sex three times a day, with occasional long romantic weekends, and it doesn't interfere in any way with your other life responsabilities and goals...

Would you consider yourself to have an addiction?

I suspect most people would think they had found heaven :)

Now subsititute a same sex couple, with absolutely no doubts as to their own sexual identity, in the above scenario.  At what point in that transition does the classic straight romance fantasy I described turn into a terrible homosexual addiction?  

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